Wednesday, December 12, 2007


I don't know whether to laugh, or to sob uncontrollably. I contacted an agency to ask about possibly switching programs recently, and got this as a response:
If I understand what you said correctly, you have a LID that is over one
year old. My understanding is that it is possible that you could get a
referral the end of 2008. Since the CCAA has a rule that the newest child
must be in the home for one year before you can receive a referral, it seems
that if you processed through the XXXXX program, you would need to put
the China program on hold.
I'm furious that there are still agencies out there selling the idea of quick referrals to clients. I'm even more furious that this is an agency with its own China program, so they should know better! I know there are financial considerations involved, but please - don't delude yourself or me that somehow the 43 weeks from now until October 27, 2006 are going to be referred out before the end of 2008. That would mean that the CCAA would have to start referring full months, which seems almost beyond the realm of possibility at this point.

I wish that the CCAA and our agencies understood one simple fact - all adoptive parents are looking for is the truth. If the wait is 1 year, 3 years, or 5 years, tell us that - we'll wrap our heads around it and make the appropriate decision for each of our families. It's the limbo that's changing us, binding us, hurting us. I turned to adoption partly to get off the "maybe someday, maybe never" train of infertility treatment. Ironically, I seem to have bought another ticket.


Blogger Mark, Rebecca and Sophia said...

Yuck. I am so sorry that this was the reply you got. Delusion is an appropriate title. By the end of 2008? I can't believe anyone typed thay! I hope that you can get some better answers so that you can do what you were hoping to do for your family.

2:18 PM  
Blogger Daniella said...

It's a nice dream but yeah, delusional.

3:11 PM  
Blogger Kelly & Matt said...

I think I bought the same ticket you did! Hang in there...

7:39 PM  
Anonymous Mila's Mom said...

I must be a season ticket holder too.
Remember that Informercial nut job with the short blonde hair.


Well I spoke to My Partner In waiting yesterday(The File clerk who has only worked there for 6 months)
And she pretty much told me the same thing.

Hey I'm making Margarita's Salt or No Salt.

Sorry , xoxo Dee

7:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Heather, I may have misunderstood your message, but I thought you said you were considering switching programs, not doing an interim adoption? Anyway, if you are considering an interim adoption, you CAN find an agency that will help you and I ASSURE you that CCAI will support you. Let me know if I can be of any help on learning more about interim adoptions. You are one of the STRONGEST women I know - hang in there and never give up! Love, Laura

9:19 PM  

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